The Signs of Loneliness
So how do you know if you’re lonely? According to research by CIGNA, here are some common signs:
- No deep connections with others — Maybe you have friends and family in your life, but they are more like casual acquaintances.
- No close or “best” friends” — No one who truly “gets” you.
- Overwhelming feelings of isolation — Even when you are surrounded by people at a party, at work or just walking down a busy street, you feel alone. And when you try to engage, it can be physically exhausting.
- Long-term self-doubt — Including low self-worth or feelings that you’re not seen or heard.
Measure Your Loneliness
Use this quick, three-question Loneliness Scale from UCLA to help determine your level of loneliness. There are no right or wrong answers, just be completely honest and think of your life in general instead of focusing on good or bad days.
1. How often do you feel that you lack companionship?
- Hardly ever: 1
- Some of the time: 2
- Often: 3
2. How often do you feel left out?
- Hardly ever: 1
- Some of the time: 2
- Often: 3
3. How often do you feel isolated from others?
- Hardly ever: 1
- Some of the time: 2
- Often: 3
Add the individual scores together and see what your total score signifies:
- 3 – 5: “Not lonely”
- 6 – 9: “Lonely”
So you’re lonely. Now what?
Building new connections may sound imposing, but it may be easier than you may think. There are simple steps you can take to create stronger bonds with the people in your life, plus countless clubs, activities, organizations and churches just waiting to welcome you.
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